Clearing Worry for Greater Mental Peace
Worrying is easy to do when there are a lot of unknowns around you, such as a shaky economy or the fear of whether or not you will be down-sized out of your job. -Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.
Dr. Deborah Barnett
Stopping your habitual worrying is not easy, but a few simple techniques can help you. If it is a specific event or situation that you are worrying about, write down on a piece of paper the desired outcome you would like to occur. How you will feel as the situation unfolds in this way? If you are worrying about a loved one, realize that dwelling on the negative aspects of a person or worrying about them is not helpful. It simply wears you down emotionally. As an alternative, try writing down the positive qualities of the person and the strengths you see in them.
Many times people mistakenly feel that they can somehow control a situation if they worry about if enough. One of the most helpful things you can do is let go of the illusion of having control. There is very little that you can actually control in life. You can’t control the weather, the flow of traffic, or what a person thinks about you. The only things you really have control over are the thoughts you think and the actions you take In truth, worry doesn’t change a thing. Worry is focusing on the negative “what ifs” about a situation or person. Instead, try focusing on what you can do to improve the likelihood of a positive outcome. This may consist of simply sending good thoughts toward a person, or taking steps toward improving a situation. Whether thinking uplifting thoughts or taking action, as a result your mind will be more clear and calm. Moreover, when you are in a better frame of mind not only will you feel better, but you will be more creative and insights and solutions for a situation may come to you more easily.
Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.
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