3 Steps to a loving Relationship

Relationships can go through stress and tests during the holiday season.  If you are married or if you are spending the holidays together, your relationship can have many challenges that aren’t part of your normal daily routines. Some of these include:

• Interacting with out of town family.
• Money, Money, Money.
• Time, Time, Time.

By taking care of these three areas of your life, you are leaving room for your relationship to flourish. You will have less stress and will feel more at ease with everyone.

1. When interacting with family, both your family and your mate’s family,  it can be a challenge to try to keep everyone happy.  I have found that for myself it is better to try to be peaceful than to try to make everyone happy. Surprisingly, the lack of trying so hard to create happiness for others does just that; it creates more happiness!
2. “Money and relationships” is a tough one for me. Sometimes, I relate the ability to give gifts with that of showing my love for my mate and my family.  In the past, I have gone way over budget and created problems for myself,  as well as my family. This year I did much better. I still gave gifts, but I kept it in moderation.  Guess what? I’m still loved If you have overspent, don’t beat yourself up, adjust the budget and get those credit cards paid off. If the debt is unbearable, get some credit counseling. One suggested resources  is http://nfcc.org/ 
3. Time is another element that can drive you crazy during the holidays. YOU can’t do it all. Don’t even try. No one has more time in a day than anyone else. There are only 24 hours in a day. Even Bill Gates has no more time than you do. I don’t know Bill  Gates personally, but I would imagine that he has quite a few people wanting to take his time.  Would you guess…hmm maybe thousands and thousands? How does he have time to even eat?  Here is how. He has to choose who gets his time. He has to choose what events get his time and the very same holds true for you and me. If you are feeling a time crunch, it’s only because of the choices you have made.  Remember, you can’t do everything, so you need to choose carefully.

By taking the time to remember these three steps to a loving relationship during the holiday season and upcoming New Year, you can definitely make things go smoother.

Happy Holidays,

 Tom Troughton
www.BeClearToday.com
“Clearing the mental blocks on Your Road to Success”